7 Ways To Ruin Your Marriage
- Serena Koh
- Aug 20
- 3 min read
We cannot assume that everyone knows how to do this (A satirical take 😆)
I cannot fathom why people would intentionally sabotage their own marriages and waste precious time, energy and money.
But if you feel compelled to do it for whatever reason, here are some ways to help you along.
Competing with each other
We’re not referring to a bit of healthy competition to improve or push ourselves to be better. It’s more like a sibling rivalry to seek for any kind of attention that’s borderline narcissistic.
“I closed a sale today”.
“I closed 2 sales today. Boom!”
“I was having a headache the whole day”
“I thought I was about to have a heart attack. I could feel my chest tightening.”
When we retort like this, we’re essentially saying that my accomplishments are bigger than yours, or my problems are bigger than yours. So ‘yay’ to me! Or poor me, now pay more attention to me!
Abuse
Physical abuse is no longer trendy. But don’t let me stop you if this is your jam.
Emotional and mental abuse, which can also be coupled with passive-aggressive behaviour, on the other hand, have a far more lasting effect.
If you’re highly insecure, you’d want to suppress your spouse and make him/her as small as possible.
"Do you think anyone else will love you if you continue to look like that?"
"My friends are in senior management. I don't think they'll learn anything new from you."
"I'm not surprised your brother said such a stupid thing. He's from your family."
Infidelity
Do I need to say more?
Oh, but if you’re in an open marriage, this might probably not have any effect on ruining your marriage. Check your contract before signing on the dotted line.
Constantly threaten to leave
Isn’t it exciting to always wonder if we’d one day come home to an empty house?
“I will leave you and take the dog and sell the house! You’ll have nowhere to go and no one to love you!”
Oh, they’re just words and have no power?
Then say it often enough and see if your spouse would do this very thing to you first.
Being calculative
Again, let’s keep sibling rivalry alive even in a marriage. And we’re not just talking about money.
“Honey, I have to clear the trash every few days. Could you help out once in a while?”
“Well, I spend at least 8 hours every weekend cooking our meals. Does that more than make us even?”
“Hmm… I also have to clean our bathroom every 2 weeks or so.”
“I make our bed. Every. Single. Morning.”
What are you, children? Oh yeah. Maybe you are.
Addictions
Although substance abuse would be obvious, addictions could also include gambling and pornography.
Addictions are like being in another relationship because it takes time away from the marriage and family.
It’s a one-to-one experience.
Although there have been some cases of couples who are drug addicts and their marriages do last a little bit longer than those who have only 1 spouse doing drugs, their marriages do eventually get ruined. So you can decide how long you want to prolong this pain.
Quiet quitting
This might be a thing in a corporate work environment now, but who said we haven’t already been doing this in the home environment?
This is essentially a spouse who would rather live independently from his/her family, and shows no interest in being emotionally-invested.
It could also be someone who does the bare minimum so that the current lifestyle will not be affected, or the children doesn’t die or gets kidnapped.
This might possibly be the best way to lead to the slowest death of a marriage. Why do you think grey divorce rates are rising?
So if you can’t seem to find a way to end your marriage, and don’t mind making your spouse’s life a living hell, take your pick.
I would strongly not recommend for you to use all of the above ways, unless you would also like to drive your spouse to the grave. Do it at your own peril. It might lead to your own demise instead. Who knows?
Or if you’d like to now know the opposite of ruining your marriage, read my other article here…
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