Nobody plans to get divorced. Not especially for a Christian. When I found out that my ex-husband was cheating on me and he was unrepentant, we decided to get separated first. We did this because we couldn’t sell our home at that time without making a huge loss. My care group (cell group) was the first group of friends I shared this with. Then they threw me these Bible verses… "For I hate divorce!" says the LORD, the God of Israel…” (Malachi 2:16) “A wife must not separate from her...

Blame it on the patriarchal system As little girls in my country, although we were taught to be smart and independent, we were also expected to be married and have children of our own when we come of age. The ideal age for women to get married then was between 25 to 28. We should also try to have babies before 30. Soon after getting married for Asians, family and relatives in those days would persistently ask, not 'if' but 'when' we'd have children. If we replied that we'd like to wait...

As my parents were divorced since I was 2, I don’t have much memory of being with my father’s side of the family. I only knew I had quite a few aunts, uncles and cousins, and vaguely remembered selected names of my cousins. My mum told me that my dad had married the woman whom he was seeing while they were still married and had children with his new wife. I think my mum might have told me this hoping that I’d see him in a more negative light. But somehow, this didn’t make me love him any...